After reading some of the issues and comments published at some pages I follow and having to reflect on the many perspectives, and thinking as objective as my humanness would allow, please let me share my two cents which you can freely stretch to five cents:
If we don’t know the full story, then let us try to take a moment to listen to the “why.” This will give a bit of perspective of who the person really is behind the keyboard, where she is coming from, and her reason for doing what she did or what she did not do.
On saving challenges, budgeting realistically and sensibly, and the inspiring stories that go along with it- success is a journey, not a destination. The “doing” is often more important than the outcome as per Arthur Ashe.
Oftentimes we may see someone that has done something that defy the odds of our own understanding. When you put your mind towards something that may seem unreal or unbelievable, you may think of yourself as insane!
The beauty of it is the journey taken to achieve that dream or gut wrenching feeling to just “go for it.”
There will be many naysayers along the way, but the process of “doing” is where the importance lie; not what happens at the end.
Other people’s journey may defy many odds, but did it all the same. We may think that it is unreal or a scheme because our mindset limits our belief to believe that it is real. That’s okay but it is important to note that you can do whatever you put your mind to.
Fixed Mindset vs Growth Mindset
Here’s a challenge: Write a list of 3 things you want for yourself that may be audacious to others, but important and a goal for you. It can be financial (or not), but find a way to make it happen. You will be surprised what you can achieve once you put a focus on that dream/ goal and work towards it despite what others may say.
Our mindset is beautiful and can be dangerous simultaneously.
If you’re not familiar with Carol Dweck, you may check her out as she explains on fix and growth mindsets.
Our perspectives and viewpoints will always be based on how our mindset works.
When we feel or believe that something is unattainable, our minds will literally block our understanding to attain the unbelievable.
It is a flight, fight, or freeze response that happens. Take a moment to think about it when you see, hear, or read of something that seems audaciously impossible.
Would you be able to have the same response or ability to push through adversity if faced with similar situation?
Kindness Pays Off
Kindness pays off, it always does. No act of kindness will ever be wasted. As a mother of a toddler son, he knows and can recite the number 1 rule in life: Always be kind, nice, respectful, and never whinge.
I am not advocating that one should be a doormat and allow everyone to walk over you and wipe their feet on you; metaphorically speaking, it is important to not allow emotions dictate your thoughts leading into knee-jerk reactions that can be detrimental to you and those around you.
It is true that we are humans and yes, we commit mistakes.
But we must never allow these mistakes to define a person. It is important to look past those emotions and see beyond the trees to understand the valuable information to help transform the lives of many toward their individual successes.
Senders who come out in the open has placed themselves in a vulnerable spot by sharing their personal issues for public consumption. The purpose of sharing our perspectives and viewpoints is to help others to realise that they too can do better for themselves and the family they love.
I do wish everyone all the best in their individual journeys, financial or otherwise.
My hope is that we all learn something from anyone’s journey to become a better version of ourselves.
Blessings to one and all!